I tend to be a no mom. I wasn’t always this way. When I only had one child, no business to run and wasn’t so stressed about life in general, I said yes all the time.
These days I just see the mess I will have to clean, the extra work I will have to do and the money I will have to spend. It’s kinda sad really. I mean we shouldn’t say yes to everything, but we should totally say yes more often. I mean really, throw out an old towel and paint away. Strip down and turn the sprinkler on, let’s go to the woods to hike or pack a lunch and go somewhere cheap.
Want to use the face paint I have had squirreled away for last few years? You know the stuff I bought on an after Halloween sale so we could play with it one day, but then I never actually let you play with it. I had great intentions when I bought it. I knew it would be a blast to you one day, but then I couldn’t bring myself to the point of letting you break it out. What makes my brain work like this? Is it because my brain is just overworked, underfed and lacking some serious rest?
So it became a point where they stopped asking me, they just did it. My daughter climbed up on a chair, reached as high as her little four year old fingers could reach and grabbed that box that said paint stuff on it. She is a go-getter that just takes matters into her own hands. And then when I said yes, but hold on a minute while I get things set up, and then she got tired of waiting, she just opened the box, grabbed some paper and started painting. Mess be dammed.
You know what? The world didn’t end! I washed the paint off the one place she got paint on it and laid out a towel. The sky didn’t fall and all was ok. Then when she grabbed the face paint and said can I use this, I started to say no. It was such a reflex. I took a deep breath and said “go for it”
Want to paint my face with face paint? Sure! Go for it. It washes off eventually, right? I found out it does wash off. It might or might wash out of clothes, but who cares? It’s just a shirt and she has plenty more. We spent 20 minutes playing with something so simple and when we were done she was ready to wash it off. It meant an early bathtime so win-win!
So here is the thing, say yes sometimes. It’s good for your soul, it’s good for your brain, it’s good for your kids. Then once you do, grab a camera and snap a picture, or better yet let’s plan it out and set a date for me to come capture it with you!