Self Preservation; a natural or instinctive tendency to act so as to preserve one’s own existence.
To practice the art of self-care.
What is one’s own existence? We seem to lose ourselves as we get older. Maybe that’s not true, maybe we never really knew ourselves. Then as we age, become parents, move through jobs and relationships, we figure out that we have no idea who or what we are. We wake up one day and realize that maybe we don’t know ourselves at all.
Then we start a quest to figure out who we are. Eat, Pray Love right? The proverbial mid-life crisis. Is this what our parents warned us about when we graduated school? That one day we will yell F*ck it and F*ck you to anyone/thing that will listen. That we will want to start searching for what soul we have left.
To reclaim our soul, our life, our “self”.
Do we really wake up one day and think, I need to find myself? Or is it a slow burn through kid’s snot rags and crappy day jobs?
Maybe it’s a little of both?
Here is my starting point
Earlier this year I started a project reflecting on “self”. A multimedia dive into my thoughts and feelings through a day. It sure touched on some emotions but did it answer any questions?
Did it answer how I was trying to find time for “self-care”, whatever that buzzword means? Honestly, I really hate the word “self-care”. I know what marketing wants me to think self-care is, but bubble baths and face masks don’t take care of my “self”. A beer and book go a lot farther. A long walk in the woods, preferably for many days at a time, would be a good start. Finding time to feed my creativity in both personal ways and ways that get me more acclaim, that’s a good ticket.
What do I really need?
Honestly, some of those things I listed above, but are they just the superficial fillers that take up space? Will they really help bring my soul to the surface?
I have no freaking idea.
Does anyone? What does it take to preserves one’s own existence?
Here is my goal
Over the next few months, years, whatever, I am going to search out some answers. I won’t be going to Italy or India or Bali (although if someone wants to send me there, I won’t complain). I will be collaborating with others in the same place as me, that are working on their own self-preservation, reclaiming what is them. We want to show you what is working, what we are failing at, what brings us joy at that moment, or what we want to work towards.
How we are trying to save that little person drowning inside, preserving her for our own existence.
Which sometimes just includes us hiding in plain sight to get one moment’s worth of peace, even though it smells like dog pee.
Want to follow along in our journey?
Want to contribute as well?
Here is where we can start.
First, start following along with us on our IG Loop.
Then, come check us out over at Preserve.Self on IG and use the hashtag #PreserveSelf to start telling us your stories and letting us share those stories with others.
Let’s build a virtual community of preserving our SELF.